Shouting, screaming, lashing out, and slamming doors are some of the signs usually associated with angry people.
They are perceived as short tempered and argumentative, and people close to them are often familiar with their triggers.
However, not all anger issues are direct and visible, some remain hidden, even from the person who’s carrying this uncomfortable emotion, but not knowing the harm it’s doing to them.
In a relationship hidden anger issues can turn problematic as it leaves the other person confused and suffocated.
Some anger issues can be repressed when the person experiencing it doesn’t acknowledge their emotions or find healthy outlets to release them.
Repressed anger can at times cause passive aggressive behavior in people and it may also turn into sadness or depression in extreme cases.
It’s important to recognize this kind of behavioural pattern as this can make a relationship toxic.
Here are signs your partner has hidden anger issues
1. They turn silent during a conflict
People who have a habit of repressing their anger subconsciously are uncomfortable with putting forward their view in a conflict or argument. They may turn completely silent during such a situation, as in their mind they are trying to deny the disagreement or feel they are unable to handle it.
2. They indulge in passive aggressive behavior
While your partner may not directly tell you what’s making them uncomfortable, their frustrations may be visible in their verbal or non-verbal behaviour. They may give you silent treatment or taunt you without any reason. They may hold the grudge for a longer time than you as they do not process anger in the same way you do.
3. They can’t hear a ‘no’
People who repress their anger may have a low self-esteem owing to certain childhood issues or trauma. This may reflect in their discomfort over you disagreeing over a plan or a decision. They may take this against you and blame you for not being on the same page with you.
4. They feel depressed after a conflict
Hidden anger issues can often manifest in unexplained or unpredictable behaviours. If your partner is not in touch with their emotions, or in the habit of denying them, they may feel low after a conflict.
5. Fighting without any reason
While your partner may be suppressing anger in dealing with real issues, they may lose their cool over small or irrelevant issues as the suppressed emotions may start bothering on occasions when they are least prepared to deal with them
