While a small amount of jealousy can be normal and manageable, excessive jealousy can become destructive, affecting various aspects of life, including achievements, friendships, and especially romantic relationships.
To help you determine if jealousy might be affecting you, we’ve included a quiz inspired by Psychology Today.
As you take the quiz, you’ll explore different scenarios and feelings related to jealousy, which will help you understand how it might be influencing your relationship.
Grab a paper and pen, jot down your answers, and review the results at the end to gain insights into your feelings and how to address them.
If you’ve ever questioned whether your jealousy is justified or if you’re frustrated by your partner’s concerns about your jealousy, this quiz is for you.
By understanding the psychology behind jealousy and recognizing its signs, you can address your partner’s concerns more effectively and improve your relationship.
So, dive in to discover if you’re experiencing jealousy and learn how to handle it with greater clarity and understanding.
Quiz: Is jealousy sabotaging your love life?
1. I believe that people in a committed relationship can have a platonic friendship with someone of the opposite sex without any romantic involvement.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
2. I have asked my partner about their past romantic relationships.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
3. I often worry about whether my partner is being loyal to me.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
4. I check my partner’s phone, email, or personal items to find out what they are doing.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
5. I feel confident that I am good enough for my partner.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
6. I feel uneasy or threatened by my partner’s relationships with friends or coworkers of the opposite sex.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
7. I feel uncomfortable when my partner interacts with people of the opposite sex.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
8. I often call or text my partner to check where they are or what they are doing.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
9. I believe that people are generally more likely to cheat in relationships.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
10. I question whether I am attractive or good enough for my partner.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
11. If my partner shows interest in someone else, I criticize or point out that person’s flaws.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
12. I worry that my partner might leave me for someone who they think is better.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
13. I have been cheated on in previous relationships.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
14. If I see my partner talking to someone of the opposite sex, I try to join their conversation.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
15. I make an effort to look my best to keep my partner interested in me.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
16. I believe that other people are trying to pursue my partner romantically.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
17. I would be upset if my partner complimented someone else’s appearance.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
18. I would be unhappy if my partner gave a costly gift to a friend or coworker of the opposite sex.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
19. I show physical affection to my partner when other people are around to make our relationship clear.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
20. I often worry that my partner might be attracted to or interested in someone else.
-Agree
-Disagree
-Neutral
Results:
1. High jealousy and insecurity
If you have a high number of ‘Agree’ responses (12 or more), it shows that you have significant trust issues, concerns about self-worth, and a lack of security in your relationship. This level of jealousy and insecurity suggests that you should spend more time with your partner to discuss your feelings and concerns openly. It’s also important to understand their perspective. If these issues become overwhelming, seeking professional help might be beneficial for both you and your partner.
2. Moderate jealousy and insecurity
If you have ‘Agree’ responses between 6 and 11, it suggests you have some minor concerns about your relationship and its security, but these issues are not overwhelming. Minor jealousy and concerns are normal in relationships. To strengthen your bond and prevent these issues from growing, focus on spending quality time with your partner, maintaining open communication, and being open with each other. Making small efforts and working together as a team can enhance your relationship and improve your self-esteem and confidence.
3. Secure and healthy relationship
”Great job! If you have ‘Agree’ responses of 5 or fewer, it shows a strong level of trust and confidence in your relationship. You have strong self-esteem and confidence, with few or no concerns about loyalty or self-worth. Make sure to promote open communication with your partner and maintain the beautifully strong bond you’ve created together.
Another consideration: Neutral responses
If you have a lot of neutral responses, it might mean you’re unsure or have mixed feelings about your partner. Take a moment to think about these areas and see if there are any unresolved issues in your relationship. Openly communicating with your partner and thinking deeply might help clear up this confusion.
And so, jealousy is a natural human emotion, but it can be moderate or overwhelming. Understanding how jealousy affects you and your thoughts is important for improving your relationship. No matter what your quiz results show, talking openly with your partner and building trust together is key. By dealing with any worries or doubts, you can make your relationship stronger and more secure.
