Whenever you and your partner are really in love with one another, it might feel like whatever challenges and problems you face in a relationship are easy and simple. However, no relationship is ever going to be easy regardless of how much you might love one another. And don’t think that just because you love each other that you’re never going to break up. There might be certain red flags within your relationship that predict an impending breakup even if you are still in love with each other.
You have always been taught that as you are growing up, once you find someone who you love and who also loves you in return, then everything is going to turn out fine. But you aren’t really prepared for everything else that has to come into play. It’s not just a matter of loving one another. There is so much more to a relationship than two people who love one another. Sustaining a relationship is going to require so much more than just love.
Sometimes, when you love someone too much, you can become blind to the things that you need to be paying attention to in your relationship. Granted, no relationship is going to be perfect. And you’re going to have to learn to be tolerant of the minor perfections that might exist between the two of you. However, these imperfections can also be manifested in the form of incompatibility. And when two people are just incompatible, then there is very little that love can do to actually save the relationship.
The real truth is that you can still love your partner even though you aren’t necessarily right for one another. It just happens. If you have enough willpower, then you might be able to make the relationship last in spite of your issues. But a lot of the time, people just get crushed underneath all of the toxicity that’s brought about by an inherent dysfunction or incompatibility.
If you notice that you and your partner are exhibiting the following signs, it’s very likely that your relationship just isn’t going to last no matter how hard you try. And when that’s the case, it’s better to just break things off and move on to new things.
1. You don’t feel the urge to be physically intimate.
Neither of you really feel the urge to be physically intimate with one another. You might love each other, but you don’t really manifest that love in the form of physical affection.
2. You disagree with the important things.
It’s okay to have some disagreements on the little things every now and then. These won’t really factor too much into how your relationship plays out. But when you can’t see eye to eye on the big things, it’s always an issue.
3. You find yourself blaming your partner a lot.
Instead of owning up and taking responsibility for the things that go wrong in the relationship, you just naturally gravitate towards placing the blame on your partner.
4. You don’t feel like your partner brings out the best in you.
You don’t feel like you are a better person because of your relationship. In fact, it might be possible that you feel like the relationship is bringing out the worst in you.
5. You don’t really make compromises as a couple.
You don’t really try to meet each other halfway when you have disagreements or when you don’t see things in the same light. You don’t try to come to a compromise on things.
6. You can’t accept criticism without feeling attacked.
Whenever your partner tries to express their negative feelings about something, it might rub you the wrong way. You somehow feel like you are being attacked all of the time instead of just trying to hear them out.
7. You try to avoid having fights and arguments.
You would both rather just avoid fights because you’re not comfortable with speaking your truth to each other. It means that you both don’t handle conflict well and you rarely find a way to resolve your issues in the relationship.
8. You don’t try to be sweet with one another.
You might love one another, but it doesn’t really manifest in the way that you treat one another. Neither of you makes an effort to be sweet or romantic in your relationship. You don’t really try to tap into those feelings of love and passion.
9. You aren’t happy in the relationship.
And of course, the biggest telltale sign of them all: you’re unhappy. Your relationship doesn’t necessarily have to be the sole source of happiness in your life. But you know that something is wrong if you can’t seem to extract any kind of happiness from it. It’s just not a sustainable romance.
