Relationships are tough. They’re never designed to be smooth and easy rides for anyone. It’s wrong for people to think that just because two people love one another, they’re practically meant to spend the rest of their lives together. It really isn’t that simple. Love isn’t that easy. If relationships were that easy, then there would really be no breakups in this world anymore. And yet, the breakups persist.
But why do breakups take place anyway? What are these people doing wrong? And why is love not enough to actually sustain a relationship?
Well, there are plenty of things that go into trying to make a relationship work. And anyone who takes a relationship lightly is completely deluded about the amount of effort and dedication that it takes to sustain a romance between two people. That is why if you happen to be in a relationship of your own, you really need to make it a point to stay on top of things. You always want to be doing everything in your power to strengthen the love and connection that you have with your partner.
But more than just doing the right things in a relationship, it’s also about making sure that you avoid committing a lot of costly mistakes that are driving the two of you further and further apart.
A lot of the time, relationships end just because people don’t realize that they are engaging in bad habits or mistakes in their relationship. And whenever that’s the case, it’s unfortunate because the relationship ends up getting ripped to shreds unnecessarily.
There is always a way to give yourselves the best shot at lasting in your relationship. And it all starts with making sure that you aren’t making the same mistakes over and over again.
1. You make it personal whenever you get into an argument.
Arguments happen in the relationship. You’re not always going to see eye to eye in a relationship and that’s okay. However, what isn’t okay is when you take your arguments personally. Always keep things civil and well-mannered. Never go below the belt.
2. You let your anger get the best of you.
You should never let your anger get the best of you. This is in relation to the previous mistake in this list. If you find yourself feeling upset with your partner, allow yourself to calm down first before you confront them about anything. Sometimes, anger might get the best of you and you end up saying something you’re only going to regret.
3. You don’t value sexual intimacy in the relationship.
Some people might think that sexual intimacy is something that should only ever be relegated to younger couples. But that shouldn’t be the case. Sexual intercourse is actually the pinnacle of physical intimacy. And when two people are physically intimate with one another, they are also building on their emotional intimacy with each other as well.
4. You break the mutual trust in your relationship.
There can never really be any love or chemistry between two people who don’t trust one another. It’s not love whenever two individuals feel like they have to control or micromanage each other in the relationship. Loving another person means trusting that person to be who they are independent of who you want them to be.
If you can’t trust your partner to make the right decisions in the relationship, then you don’t really trust them with your love either. It’s as simple as that.
5. You keep your feelings to yourself.
Sometimes, you’re going to be dealt with a lot of uncomfortable feelings while you’re in a relationship. And whenever that’s the case, instead of bringing it up with your partner, you would rather just eat your words because you don’t want to be manifesting that discomfort in the relationship.
That’s wrong. The only way that you and your partner would ever be able to resolve the issues in your relationship is if you attack them head-on. If you keep your feelings to yourself, you are essentially keeping your partner in the dark with regards to a very fundamental aspect of who you are.
6. You stop trying to get closer to one another.
A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that once the honeymoon phase of the relationship is over, then that’s practically it… that’s as close as two people can get. But that’s wrong. The strongest and healthiest relationships always have couples who are constantly working at getting closer to one another.
Love is something that is built over time. It’s never something that is achieved within a matter of hours, days, or weeks. It’s something that is continuously worked on over the course of a lifetime. And the couples that last are always the couples that never stop working at getting closer to each other.
